69.
We never get around to cleaning. We go out to dinner and a movie instead. The movie is called "Innocent Voices," in Spanish, and is set in El Salvador during the civil war. For the first half, everything seems so true I almost forget it was based on a real story, but then the boy becomes a man.
When the credits roll, Cathreen says, "We have a happy life, right?" The family in the movie lost their house, watched their friends die, were almost killed by children bearing arms. I should have been thinking about this in the same way.
70.
At home, Cathreen lies in bed and reads the news. The world is stressing her out. I wish the world would quit it.
So much has happened in the last two weeks. Her hand, her hair, our good days and bad, Christmas. Israel is bombing Palestine.
I wish we would learn.
71.
In the morning, we wake up early to take out the recycling from the past two weeks and in the parking lot, boxes are piled high like the ruins of cardboard castles. Cathreen says everyone is cleaning for the New Year. I think about Italians throwing plates out of windows to keep away the spirits of their pasts--something like that. Tomorrow is the arbitrary day we say the earth begins another orbit around the sun.
With 2009 comes the clean slate we set for ourselves.
We will take what we can get.
72.
If this seems a natural ending, the last day of the year, I didn't plan it. All experiments, great or small, must end.
As I drive Cathreen to work, something I say causes a storm to pass across her face, and I know I haven't been fair to her. I've been too harsh on her character, and perhaps on my own, as I am prone to do. Except this is real life, not fiction.
"Don't writing about me anymore," she says. "I'm getting frustrated." I stare blankly ahead. "Now you're going to writing: Cathreen says, 'Don't writing about me anymore. I'm getting frustrated,' right?" I can't help but think this is the perfect ending. I don't want to make her angry, but our honest reactions, in injury and in recuperation, are what I had set out to capture from our tragic two weeks before the heightened state eventually peters out.
12.30.2008
The Fourteenth Post
65.
In the morning, or really, afternoon, we go to the bank to transfer some money home. The holidays made for quite a bill. The exchange rate flickers every few minutes with a new number. My money is becoming more and less before my eyes.
"1,287," I say. "1,278." I don't say anything when it goes up over 1,300 again.
The economy is so uncaring.
66.
Cathreen says in one of the sections I didn't say, "It's an expression," but I wrote down that I did. Maybe I was just thinking this. Maybe I wanted to think she didn't understand when she did. I think, even, that I didn't say, "Life is a bitch," but, "Life sucks." Simply, unambiguously, enough.
67.
The dishes, the furniture, the carpets await me. I am off to make them look like they are new.
68.
But before I go and clean, I think about how the elder of Cathreen's students, this morning, when he was supposed to read a play, only said what he had memorized of it, not looking at the words. I tried to make him read it, but he kept repeating mistakes that only existed in his head and not in the book before him. How can you fight what isn't really there?
In the morning, or really, afternoon, we go to the bank to transfer some money home. The holidays made for quite a bill. The exchange rate flickers every few minutes with a new number. My money is becoming more and less before my eyes.
"1,287," I say. "1,278." I don't say anything when it goes up over 1,300 again.
The economy is so uncaring.
66.
Cathreen says in one of the sections I didn't say, "It's an expression," but I wrote down that I did. Maybe I was just thinking this. Maybe I wanted to think she didn't understand when she did. I think, even, that I didn't say, "Life is a bitch," but, "Life sucks." Simply, unambiguously, enough.
67.
The dishes, the furniture, the carpets await me. I am off to make them look like they are new.
68.
But before I go and clean, I think about how the elder of Cathreen's students, this morning, when he was supposed to read a play, only said what he had memorized of it, not looking at the words. I tried to make him read it, but he kept repeating mistakes that only existed in his head and not in the book before him. How can you fight what isn't really there?
12.27.2008
The Thirteenth Post
58.
Now she says, "Describe me as wise and sweet and kind." I promise I will. This is the truth: Cathreen is wise and sweet and kind.
59.
I clean up after the dogs but it is never enough. Before Cathreen was hurt she used to do this. I can appreciate, after all this work, how much she loves those dogs. They aren't my dogs, though. We've only just met.
60.
I teach her students how to cut paper snowflakes. At first the littler one doesn't get how if you snip the edges everything falls apart. I tell him he has to cut out the parts where the paper can support the loss.
His first failed attempt looks like a bunch of hearts with hollow centers. He brings these into the other room with his snowflake to show Cathreen.
When I enter the room she is looking at a flyer for a movie already out of theaters in the States, about a dog that looks like it shoots lightning from its eyes. "Cute," she says. I wonder, the snowflake, the heart, or the movie?
61.
Last night her hand buzzed with pain but I had a headache and couldn't be sympathetic.
This morning I woke up with the headache still. Usually the pain goes away after sleep.
62.
Cathreen's mom and sister are coming back January 14th. (We're living in their apartment.) They've been away in America while we've been here in Korea--the mess we've made must completely disappear by the time they get back.
It's going to be a lot of work.
63.
I keep thinking back to that movie, Secret. There are things that didn't make sense, things that do not add up. The shock of reconfiguring what kind of movie I was watching made these things seem as if they didn't matter, but they do.
I'm thinking about writing a second screenplay. My first was about a POW who comes home from the Korean War and then is charged as a traitor. I've asked Cathreen to suggest a few plots. I need something that is not too ridiculous and not too normal.
64.
Meanwhile I try not to think about what the doctor will say when she visits today, how long he will say she has to stay in her cast, how long he will say before our life can go back to the way it was.
Cathreen is wise and sweet and kind.
Now she says, "Describe me as wise and sweet and kind." I promise I will. This is the truth: Cathreen is wise and sweet and kind.
59.
I clean up after the dogs but it is never enough. Before Cathreen was hurt she used to do this. I can appreciate, after all this work, how much she loves those dogs. They aren't my dogs, though. We've only just met.
60.
I teach her students how to cut paper snowflakes. At first the littler one doesn't get how if you snip the edges everything falls apart. I tell him he has to cut out the parts where the paper can support the loss.
His first failed attempt looks like a bunch of hearts with hollow centers. He brings these into the other room with his snowflake to show Cathreen.
When I enter the room she is looking at a flyer for a movie already out of theaters in the States, about a dog that looks like it shoots lightning from its eyes. "Cute," she says. I wonder, the snowflake, the heart, or the movie?
61.
Last night her hand buzzed with pain but I had a headache and couldn't be sympathetic.
This morning I woke up with the headache still. Usually the pain goes away after sleep.
62.
Cathreen's mom and sister are coming back January 14th. (We're living in their apartment.) They've been away in America while we've been here in Korea--the mess we've made must completely disappear by the time they get back.
It's going to be a lot of work.
63.
I keep thinking back to that movie, Secret. There are things that didn't make sense, things that do not add up. The shock of reconfiguring what kind of movie I was watching made these things seem as if they didn't matter, but they do.
I'm thinking about writing a second screenplay. My first was about a POW who comes home from the Korean War and then is charged as a traitor. I've asked Cathreen to suggest a few plots. I need something that is not too ridiculous and not too normal.
64.
Meanwhile I try not to think about what the doctor will say when she visits today, how long he will say she has to stay in her cast, how long he will say before our life can go back to the way it was.
Cathreen is wise and sweet and kind.
The Twelfth Post
57.
In the afternoon, Cathreen sits down and reads what I have written since the seventh post. She asks, "Why didn't you writing about our Christmas?"
"Okay," I say, "I will. But you told me not to." I should have stopped with "I will."
Here's what happened on Christmas:
We had a spat on the way over to her sister's house, but I figured the baby would cheer her up. "Uri Ji-hwan," she calls him, "our Ji-hwan," though he is only our nephew.
She decorated a cake and made cookies and I tried to make eggnog but failed. Korea doesn't have nutmeg. As I looked for this rare spice I thought about how I was raised in the nutmeg state.
After eating sweets we went to a Christian university high on an island mountain. Lights were strung up everywhere and people filled the streets and you could see the city below. The only problem was a lack of parking, so Cathreen's sister and brother-in-law were left in the car with the baby. We took pictures for them.
"Do you feel like it's Christmas now?" Cathreen asked as we walked through a candy-cane forest.
I said I did. All week I had been complaining it didn't feel like the holidays, though I have said this in Boston, as well, like when they throw the strings of lights over the trees in the Common and pretend this counts as decoration.
"Was it worth it?" she asked. I said it was.
We walked to the car, and I felt my tenderness for her and hers for me like a thinning of air, making it hard to breathe.
For dinner we ate raw fish and fried chicken and drank failed eggnog and soju and beer.
In the afternoon, Cathreen sits down and reads what I have written since the seventh post. She asks, "Why didn't you writing about our Christmas?"
"Okay," I say, "I will. But you told me not to." I should have stopped with "I will."
Here's what happened on Christmas:
We had a spat on the way over to her sister's house, but I figured the baby would cheer her up. "Uri Ji-hwan," she calls him, "our Ji-hwan," though he is only our nephew.
She decorated a cake and made cookies and I tried to make eggnog but failed. Korea doesn't have nutmeg. As I looked for this rare spice I thought about how I was raised in the nutmeg state.
After eating sweets we went to a Christian university high on an island mountain. Lights were strung up everywhere and people filled the streets and you could see the city below. The only problem was a lack of parking, so Cathreen's sister and brother-in-law were left in the car with the baby. We took pictures for them.
"Do you feel like it's Christmas now?" Cathreen asked as we walked through a candy-cane forest.
I said I did. All week I had been complaining it didn't feel like the holidays, though I have said this in Boston, as well, like when they throw the strings of lights over the trees in the Common and pretend this counts as decoration.
"Was it worth it?" she asked. I said it was.
We walked to the car, and I felt my tenderness for her and hers for me like a thinning of air, making it hard to breathe.
For dinner we ate raw fish and fried chicken and drank failed eggnog and soju and beer.
12.26.2008
The Eleventh Post
53.
I go on.
54.
When I wake up, Cathreen comes and lies down next to me. I slept in the other room again. She says she's sorry she was cranky. This is as sweet a gesture as I could have expected.
Now she has a fever and she places my hand on her forehead.
Her palm hurts. But she can move her fingers, if only a few centimeters.
55.
She calls me into the other room. Boise, our cat, is eating the dogs' food. This, we figure, must be why they hate him.
He is supposed to be dieting to fit on the plane to America.
We bought him on an impulse, on a rainy day, and treat him like our child.
56.
For the next two months, I decide I will write for hours a day. Cathreen has made me promise I will use this time wisely.
I go on.
54.
When I wake up, Cathreen comes and lies down next to me. I slept in the other room again. She says she's sorry she was cranky. This is as sweet a gesture as I could have expected.
Now she has a fever and she places my hand on her forehead.
Her palm hurts. But she can move her fingers, if only a few centimeters.
55.
She calls me into the other room. Boise, our cat, is eating the dogs' food. This, we figure, must be why they hate him.
He is supposed to be dieting to fit on the plane to America.
We bought him on an impulse, on a rainy day, and treat him like our child.
56.
For the next two months, I decide I will write for hours a day. Cathreen has made me promise I will use this time wisely.
12.24.2008
The Tenth Post
47.
My Christmas Eve lesson is about hibernating animals. Woodland frogs, I find out, hibernate under leaves, their bodies freezing and then thawing out in spring.
The kids are not as amazed by this as I am.
We talk about monsters. We talk about things that scare them. I tell them again about dolls that look too much like people. But I keep thinking of frogs coming back to life.
48.
When I get home Cathreen has a new cast. It's small and blue and looks like one of those knee braces except for it's on her hand. Compared to the last piece it's adorable. It allows her fingers to breathe.
She says in the morning she washed her hand and dead skin flaked off like rain.
49.
These events have me thinking about the New Year, starting fresh. Cathreen comes in and says not to write about our Christmas.
50.
Before midnight we deliver presents for her tutoring kids. We call ourselves Santa's helpers. The two boys have plastic bows that shoot arrows with suction cups on the end of them. I shoot one boy in the stomach. I tell them not to shoot at their teachers. They listen.
51.
We tell my boss I'm not coming on Christmas and it's up to him what to do. "It's God's day," Cathreen says. That's right. We'll leave it up to God.
52.
Taking a break to say, Merry Christmas, then thinking this might end up longer than I had thought it would, originally.
My Christmas Eve lesson is about hibernating animals. Woodland frogs, I find out, hibernate under leaves, their bodies freezing and then thawing out in spring.
The kids are not as amazed by this as I am.
We talk about monsters. We talk about things that scare them. I tell them again about dolls that look too much like people. But I keep thinking of frogs coming back to life.
48.
When I get home Cathreen has a new cast. It's small and blue and looks like one of those knee braces except for it's on her hand. Compared to the last piece it's adorable. It allows her fingers to breathe.
She says in the morning she washed her hand and dead skin flaked off like rain.
49.
These events have me thinking about the New Year, starting fresh. Cathreen comes in and says not to write about our Christmas.
50.
Before midnight we deliver presents for her tutoring kids. We call ourselves Santa's helpers. The two boys have plastic bows that shoot arrows with suction cups on the end of them. I shoot one boy in the stomach. I tell them not to shoot at their teachers. They listen.
51.
We tell my boss I'm not coming on Christmas and it's up to him what to do. "It's God's day," Cathreen says. That's right. We'll leave it up to God.
52.
Taking a break to say, Merry Christmas, then thinking this might end up longer than I had thought it would, originally.
12.23.2008
The Ninth Post
40.
At work I pull a girl out of class and tell her to talk to a Korean teacher about her behavior. She comes back embittered and straightened out. I'm surprised how well this has worked. Though she'll forget it by the next class.
Both of us hate the material.
41.
I rush out and back home to pick Cathreen up for dinner. I've planned an expensive place on a hill that overlooks the ocean.
"Someone's blocking us," she says as I help her with her clothes, fitting them carefully around the cast. I ask her to wear the boots I bought for her. "A truck," she says. "More bad luck."
"I didn't see anything when I got home," I say. "Maybe it's moved."
We take the elevator down and a produce truck is blocking three cars, one of which is ours. This is at 10:40 at night and the restaurant closes at 11:00.
The security guard calls the guy, goes up to his apartment, talks to the wife, the wife promises to call the guy. We see the guy walk back and up toward us, but he doesn't stop. He hurries for the elevator as we call at him.
We go back to the security guard. I am ready to key this guy's truck.
The security guard calls the guy, the guy comes down, says some ridiculous lies, finally moves his truck out for us, then drives it back in to block the other cars again.
This almost ruins our night.
42.
We get to the restaurant a little past 11:00, but they let us eat in the cafe. Cathreen is furious at the guy and I'm tired from work and drove like an idiot to get here, stopping in the middle of the street at a red light. But the food is delicious.
43.
I think I can keep her happy.
44.
It's Christmas Eve, and I can't remember why this is supposed to be my favorite day of the year. I think maybe we get locked into answers. We lose the reasons.
45.
Cathreen wasn't able to convince my boss to let me have Christmas off. We talk about whether I'd be willing to threaten to walk away.
I might, but I'm scared for the future.
We need the money for when we go to America, which we will in March, if we get the visa, to get married. Then we will live in Boston. I will finish my novel. Everything will work out.
You see, we have plans.
46.
After the restaurant, my responsibilities as heavy a drowning body I can either leave or rescue, I say, "Life is a bitch."
"No, it's not," says my love.
"It's an expression," I tell her. "You know it."
At work I pull a girl out of class and tell her to talk to a Korean teacher about her behavior. She comes back embittered and straightened out. I'm surprised how well this has worked. Though she'll forget it by the next class.
Both of us hate the material.
41.
I rush out and back home to pick Cathreen up for dinner. I've planned an expensive place on a hill that overlooks the ocean.
"Someone's blocking us," she says as I help her with her clothes, fitting them carefully around the cast. I ask her to wear the boots I bought for her. "A truck," she says. "More bad luck."
"I didn't see anything when I got home," I say. "Maybe it's moved."
We take the elevator down and a produce truck is blocking three cars, one of which is ours. This is at 10:40 at night and the restaurant closes at 11:00.
The security guard calls the guy, goes up to his apartment, talks to the wife, the wife promises to call the guy. We see the guy walk back and up toward us, but he doesn't stop. He hurries for the elevator as we call at him.
We go back to the security guard. I am ready to key this guy's truck.
The security guard calls the guy, the guy comes down, says some ridiculous lies, finally moves his truck out for us, then drives it back in to block the other cars again.
This almost ruins our night.
42.
We get to the restaurant a little past 11:00, but they let us eat in the cafe. Cathreen is furious at the guy and I'm tired from work and drove like an idiot to get here, stopping in the middle of the street at a red light. But the food is delicious.
43.
I think I can keep her happy.
44.
It's Christmas Eve, and I can't remember why this is supposed to be my favorite day of the year. I think maybe we get locked into answers. We lose the reasons.
45.
Cathreen wasn't able to convince my boss to let me have Christmas off. We talk about whether I'd be willing to threaten to walk away.
I might, but I'm scared for the future.
We need the money for when we go to America, which we will in March, if we get the visa, to get married. Then we will live in Boston. I will finish my novel. Everything will work out.
You see, we have plans.
46.
After the restaurant, my responsibilities as heavy a drowning body I can either leave or rescue, I say, "Life is a bitch."
"No, it's not," says my love.
"It's an expression," I tell her. "You know it."
The Eighth Post
32.
During the day Cathreen complains that, now that she is healing, I'm not treating her as nicely as before, not taking care of her as well. I help her put on make-up before she goes to my workplace to convince my boss to let me have Christmas off.
Make-up is so much work. There are so many things girls can do to their faces. Things that look dangerous. She runs a pencil across her eye and I try not to make any sudden movements.
33.
At night I come home and she's despondent on the bed, her cast off. She shows me her fingers. The sides are white and pruned. "Skin's off," she says. Her fingers look skinny from the top and fat from the side--the swelling is mostly on her palm, as if she has another hand underneath her own. We talk about how we've never seen a bruised palm before.
It's hard to create an arc with this peice when life keeps starting us back at the beginning.
34.
We buy hats for Christmas while we purchase another bandage to wrap her hand. Hers is a polar bear. Mine a raccoon. I am inappropriately excited. Maybe it's compensation.
I know in some ways this whole experience will help us. I will always be more careful with her.
Or maybe it will only help me. But maybe that's enough.
35.
She goes to sleep before me, as soon as we get home. I have a beer and stare at the computer. I stare at this essay but don't write anything just then. When I open the door to the bedroom she is sprawled across the mattress. I kiss her on the temple. I worry. I sleep in the other room.
36.
In the morning we wear our hats to her student's apartment, and the two boys there both have animal hats as well.
37.
We go to the hospital afterward.
The doctor says it will take her another month to regain movement in her hand. He shines some sort of laser on her. When I watch my eyes hurt.
"Don't look," I tell her.
"I'm not," she says. She calls her sister and I lie down on the bed across from her.
38.
I go to the post office but I've forgotten the address I'm sending to.
39.
I want to write here that this will be a good day, because I will make it one. I decide to write this. I write, "I want to write here that this will be a good day, because I will make it one. I decide to write this. I write . . . " But I stop before it gets stupid.
I'm thinking about self-fulfilling prophecies.
I click, "publish post."
During the day Cathreen complains that, now that she is healing, I'm not treating her as nicely as before, not taking care of her as well. I help her put on make-up before she goes to my workplace to convince my boss to let me have Christmas off.
Make-up is so much work. There are so many things girls can do to their faces. Things that look dangerous. She runs a pencil across her eye and I try not to make any sudden movements.
33.
At night I come home and she's despondent on the bed, her cast off. She shows me her fingers. The sides are white and pruned. "Skin's off," she says. Her fingers look skinny from the top and fat from the side--the swelling is mostly on her palm, as if she has another hand underneath her own. We talk about how we've never seen a bruised palm before.
It's hard to create an arc with this peice when life keeps starting us back at the beginning.
34.
We buy hats for Christmas while we purchase another bandage to wrap her hand. Hers is a polar bear. Mine a raccoon. I am inappropriately excited. Maybe it's compensation.
I know in some ways this whole experience will help us. I will always be more careful with her.
Or maybe it will only help me. But maybe that's enough.
35.
She goes to sleep before me, as soon as we get home. I have a beer and stare at the computer. I stare at this essay but don't write anything just then. When I open the door to the bedroom she is sprawled across the mattress. I kiss her on the temple. I worry. I sleep in the other room.
36.
In the morning we wear our hats to her student's apartment, and the two boys there both have animal hats as well.
37.
We go to the hospital afterward.
The doctor says it will take her another month to regain movement in her hand. He shines some sort of laser on her. When I watch my eyes hurt.
"Don't look," I tell her.
"I'm not," she says. She calls her sister and I lie down on the bed across from her.
38.
I go to the post office but I've forgotten the address I'm sending to.
39.
I want to write here that this will be a good day, because I will make it one. I decide to write this. I write, "I want to write here that this will be a good day, because I will make it one. I decide to write this. I write . . . " But I stop before it gets stupid.
I'm thinking about self-fulfilling prophecies.
I click, "publish post."
12.21.2008
The Seventh Post
28.
Cathreen seems to have lost interest in the project. Her hand is healing. She didn't take medicine all day yesterday. Instead she stayed in bed and surfed the internet.
She came out once to watch tv and dug her nails into my skin without noticing. I yelled, frightening her out of her reverie. She went back into the bedroom. Later we both apologized and went to sleep. That was the weekend.
29.
When I slammed the door on her I was trying to storm out of the room and make a scene. I didn't know her hand was there. This doesn't make it any better.
I am shipwrecked on an island of guilt.
30.
I should have mentioned this earlier. Her mother asked her to go to the family fortune teller and retrieve their fortunes for 2009. My luck was supposed to get better in December.
This is the same fortune teller who thought I had died when I was two, when Cathreen and her mom went to see him about us getting married. He said my life in Korea had ended then. I was adopted when I was two. He said we're a good match if I'm still alive.
Or maybe this was another fortune teller--I can't remember.
31.
I think "Shipwrecked" would be a good title. We're wandering around picking up the fragments of what was broken when her hand almost was. We'll build a shelter here against wild animals and cannibals.
Cathreen seems to have lost interest in the project. Her hand is healing. She didn't take medicine all day yesterday. Instead she stayed in bed and surfed the internet.
She came out once to watch tv and dug her nails into my skin without noticing. I yelled, frightening her out of her reverie. She went back into the bedroom. Later we both apologized and went to sleep. That was the weekend.
29.
When I slammed the door on her I was trying to storm out of the room and make a scene. I didn't know her hand was there. This doesn't make it any better.
I am shipwrecked on an island of guilt.
30.
I should have mentioned this earlier. Her mother asked her to go to the family fortune teller and retrieve their fortunes for 2009. My luck was supposed to get better in December.
This is the same fortune teller who thought I had died when I was two, when Cathreen and her mom went to see him about us getting married. He said my life in Korea had ended then. I was adopted when I was two. He said we're a good match if I'm still alive.
Or maybe this was another fortune teller--I can't remember.
31.
I think "Shipwrecked" would be a good title. We're wandering around picking up the fragments of what was broken when her hand almost was. We'll build a shelter here against wild animals and cannibals.
The Sixth Post
25.
For dinner we go to a beef restaurant we tried once and liked, and on the way Cathreen picks up strawberries for dessert, saying we can stop by her sister's house after we eat. When we get there the restaurant is closed, but as we settle into the car again to find somewhere else, her sister calls to say she had a feeling she should ask where we were.
Cathreen has told me before how they have a psychic connection, like twins. I remember the night she had stomach cramps and woke me up screaming, and in the morning, she called her sister and it turned out the baby had been born.
We go over there and watch a movie afterward on their home theater system. I walk with her brother-in-law to pick out the DVD. He says something in Korean, and something else, and then tugs on my earmuffs, and we walk out in the rain not understanding each other.
26.
Now we're Christmas shopping. Why is it so hard for us to pick out something other people will like? I don't know whether I ask this as a personal question or a human one. Seems like other people can do this, can't they?
27.
The dogs and cat fight like dogs and cats. Cathreen looks at dog-training devices online, but her pets are probably far too old to learn. The machines look complicated. One claims to be for multiple-dog houses: a bark is amplified at dog pitch, and the other canines grow angry and beat up on the first one to teach him a lesson. I think.
The reviews do not sound promising.
For dinner we go to a beef restaurant we tried once and liked, and on the way Cathreen picks up strawberries for dessert, saying we can stop by her sister's house after we eat. When we get there the restaurant is closed, but as we settle into the car again to find somewhere else, her sister calls to say she had a feeling she should ask where we were.
Cathreen has told me before how they have a psychic connection, like twins. I remember the night she had stomach cramps and woke me up screaming, and in the morning, she called her sister and it turned out the baby had been born.
We go over there and watch a movie afterward on their home theater system. I walk with her brother-in-law to pick out the DVD. He says something in Korean, and something else, and then tugs on my earmuffs, and we walk out in the rain not understanding each other.
26.
Now we're Christmas shopping. Why is it so hard for us to pick out something other people will like? I don't know whether I ask this as a personal question or a human one. Seems like other people can do this, can't they?
27.
The dogs and cat fight like dogs and cats. Cathreen looks at dog-training devices online, but her pets are probably far too old to learn. The machines look complicated. One claims to be for multiple-dog houses: a bark is amplified at dog pitch, and the other canines grow angry and beat up on the first one to teach him a lesson. I think.
The reviews do not sound promising.
12.20.2008
The Fifth Post
20.
I don't know how much more I can write, and post, of this. It seems like I'm only looking out for the next bad thing that will happen.
I get a package from home and it's full of wet books and paperwork. Something inside is leaking.
21.
One of the teachers where I work is leaving and they have a cake for him. He says he is going to travel around Eastern Europe for a while. I tell him when he's in Prague to go to the top of Petr'i'n hill, where lovers meet, and drink at the monastery there. "Best beer in the world," I say. I know he will not remember this. I stop myself from saying, "Have a good life," when I go home.
22.
I drive over to pick up Cathreen. On the way back we make a U-turn I think is unnecessary. I am unreasonably angry about this.
We both know who will win the next one thousand fights.
23.
I wake up at 3:00 in the afternoon. There is feces to pick up on the floor--the dogs have no respect. Sometimes after Cathreen and I make up I think about the woman in Grace Paley's "Wants." (Hello, my life.) How sad.
24.
We eat together. I will stop writing now. It is time for Cathreen's medicine. Later her stomach will hurt as much, it seems, as her hand, though I know this can't be true.
I don't know how much more I can write, and post, of this. It seems like I'm only looking out for the next bad thing that will happen.
I get a package from home and it's full of wet books and paperwork. Something inside is leaking.
21.
One of the teachers where I work is leaving and they have a cake for him. He says he is going to travel around Eastern Europe for a while. I tell him when he's in Prague to go to the top of Petr'i'n hill, where lovers meet, and drink at the monastery there. "Best beer in the world," I say. I know he will not remember this. I stop myself from saying, "Have a good life," when I go home.
22.
I drive over to pick up Cathreen. On the way back we make a U-turn I think is unnecessary. I am unreasonably angry about this.
We both know who will win the next one thousand fights.
23.
I wake up at 3:00 in the afternoon. There is feces to pick up on the floor--the dogs have no respect. Sometimes after Cathreen and I make up I think about the woman in Grace Paley's "Wants." (Hello, my life.) How sad.
24.
We eat together. I will stop writing now. It is time for Cathreen's medicine. Later her stomach will hurt as much, it seems, as her hand, though I know this can't be true.
12.18.2008
The Fourth Post
14.
After work I come home to more bad news: Cathreen has chipped her tooth. I tell her this has to go online. "Some people I guess won't believe all what happened to me," she says. I don't believe it myself. This is the kind of thing that wouldn't seem honest in fiction.
15.
We go back to see the rest of the Chinese movie, Secret, and it turns out the girl wasn't dying. She wasn't hiding her mortality--the secret she was keeping was that she was a time traveler from twenty years in the past. The movie goes on from here for another forty minutes.
This is the kind of thing I love about Asian movies. I saw a Korean film once about two jesters who perform for the king. The first half of the movie is comedy. Everyone dies in the end.
Turns out Secret was not a sweet little melodramatic romance but sci-fi.
I think about Cathreen's hand, her hair, her tooth, the movie. Something here seems significant.
I will never be able to string together meaning as amazingly as life does.
16.
Here are some notes about this project, good and bad:
First, this seems about as accurate to real life as something can get--good and bad.
Second, I guess I've censored myself a little--bad.
Third, what I write affects what I write--good and bad.
(This last one, for example: if Cathreen reads what I write that changes what happens, and what I write, next, not like working with a set past.)
17.
If I dream I'm too tired to notice.
18.
I fry eggs and bring Cathreen her medicine in the morning; I tutor her student again; I come home and wash her hair.
I've cooked the rice with too much water and it all sticks together in one big lump, refusing to come apart. When the grains are too loose Cathreen calls it "flying rice," an expression in Korean.
19.
As I write now the dogs are scratching at the floor in the living room. Some leftover of their primal urge to dig holes.
After work I come home to more bad news: Cathreen has chipped her tooth. I tell her this has to go online. "Some people I guess won't believe all what happened to me," she says. I don't believe it myself. This is the kind of thing that wouldn't seem honest in fiction.
15.
We go back to see the rest of the Chinese movie, Secret, and it turns out the girl wasn't dying. She wasn't hiding her mortality--the secret she was keeping was that she was a time traveler from twenty years in the past. The movie goes on from here for another forty minutes.
This is the kind of thing I love about Asian movies. I saw a Korean film once about two jesters who perform for the king. The first half of the movie is comedy. Everyone dies in the end.
Turns out Secret was not a sweet little melodramatic romance but sci-fi.
I think about Cathreen's hand, her hair, her tooth, the movie. Something here seems significant.
I will never be able to string together meaning as amazingly as life does.
16.
Here are some notes about this project, good and bad:
First, this seems about as accurate to real life as something can get--good and bad.
Second, I guess I've censored myself a little--bad.
Third, what I write affects what I write--good and bad.
(This last one, for example: if Cathreen reads what I write that changes what happens, and what I write, next, not like working with a set past.)
17.
If I dream I'm too tired to notice.
18.
I fry eggs and bring Cathreen her medicine in the morning; I tutor her student again; I come home and wash her hair.
I've cooked the rice with too much water and it all sticks together in one big lump, refusing to come apart. When the grains are too loose Cathreen calls it "flying rice," an expression in Korean.
19.
As I write now the dogs are scratching at the floor in the living room. Some leftover of their primal urge to dig holes.
12.17.2008
The Third Post
9.
I dream of doing something I've always wanted to do, but in the morning I can't remember what it was. I wake to find Cathreen's face beside me. Usually she tutors at this time. She says I need to do her lesson for her--she's too dizzy.
I nod that I will and then roll over in bed.
"You need to go now," she says. "It's time issue."
I've obligated myself to do this for her, by causing her pain. "Okay," I say, "I'll go. Just don't bother me. I can wake up on my own."
She doesn't seem to believe me. I'm only a few minutes late.
10.
I teach her student about the growth of San Francisco, a subject I don't expect him to be interested in. He says he wants to go there and find gold. "There's no more left," I tell him. "They've found it all."
11.
Now I'm at her sister's house. She asks what I wrote yesterday. When I read it to her, she says I'm making her look bad. "I'm not," I say. "I'm making myself look bad." She says what I've written is strange.
She voices a few complaints. "Where's the part about how I'm hero?" she asks. What she means is we've been watching this tv series about people who develop superpowers--she says hers is knowing the future, how she's been buying wide-sleeved, loose-fitting clothes for years and now they're easy to fit on and off around her cast.
I write what she asks.
12.
A couple people from home have had the chance to read this by now, and one asks how much of Cathreen's hair burned. A lot or just a little singing, he asks, as in from the verb "to singe," not "to sing."
13.
I sit by my nephew and write. Cathreen's sister had a baby five months ago, an active thing with a big voice who thinks he has two mothers.
"Hello," I say. He starts to cry. He doesn't remember me.
When Cathreen tells her sister what I'm writing, they say it's "evidence."
I dream of doing something I've always wanted to do, but in the morning I can't remember what it was. I wake to find Cathreen's face beside me. Usually she tutors at this time. She says I need to do her lesson for her--she's too dizzy.
I nod that I will and then roll over in bed.
"You need to go now," she says. "It's time issue."
I've obligated myself to do this for her, by causing her pain. "Okay," I say, "I'll go. Just don't bother me. I can wake up on my own."
She doesn't seem to believe me. I'm only a few minutes late.
10.
I teach her student about the growth of San Francisco, a subject I don't expect him to be interested in. He says he wants to go there and find gold. "There's no more left," I tell him. "They've found it all."
11.
Now I'm at her sister's house. She asks what I wrote yesterday. When I read it to her, she says I'm making her look bad. "I'm not," I say. "I'm making myself look bad." She says what I've written is strange.
She voices a few complaints. "Where's the part about how I'm hero?" she asks. What she means is we've been watching this tv series about people who develop superpowers--she says hers is knowing the future, how she's been buying wide-sleeved, loose-fitting clothes for years and now they're easy to fit on and off around her cast.
I write what she asks.
12.
A couple people from home have had the chance to read this by now, and one asks how much of Cathreen's hair burned. A lot or just a little singing, he asks, as in from the verb "to singe," not "to sing."
13.
I sit by my nephew and write. Cathreen's sister had a baby five months ago, an active thing with a big voice who thinks he has two mothers.
"Hello," I say. He starts to cry. He doesn't remember me.
When Cathreen tells her sister what I'm writing, they say it's "evidence."
The Second Post
4.
During the day, I take her to the hospital to get a second opinion on her injury. The first doctor asked her to stay in the infirmary for a week. While we're waiting, a nurse pushes a cart into my toe and doesn't apologize.
"Ouch," I say.
"That's ouch?" Cathreen asks.
"I don't mean it's as bad as yours."
She squeezes my hand between the embedded bones of my thumb and forefinger. "Even that's ouch?" she says.
5.
I met Cathreen over three years ago, when I first came to Korea to teach English. I was born in this country but adopted. So I'm Korean only not. Between us, we're a mixed bag. Willfulness is our biggest similarity, money our biggest difference. We were fighting about money the day of the door-slamming. Cathreen has always told me to be more careful with doors--which, a fact I like, are called "moon" in Korean.
6.
When I finish work, I meet my beleagured love at 2001 Outlet, a Korean shopping site. She's had a haircut and keeps asking if I like it. Her hair has always been long and beautiful; now it's short and makes her look a bit like a doll and a bit like a thirteen-year-old. Her hair surrounds her face in a bell-shape and her new bangs even out above her eyes.
"Do I look cute?" she asks.
"Okay," I say. "I like it."
We watch a Chinese movie about two music students who fall in love, the girl about to die, called Secret. We aren't able to finish it because she feel sick to her stomach--the new medicine is too strong, and she says she is depressed about her hair.
7.
If I rethink the idea of posting this essay online, I suppose I am a little worried. This whole project will test me on the asshole-o-meter, as I've already done so much to hurt her I can't say anything now that could be taken the wrong way. I hope I take time to measure my words.
8.
Now Cathreen makes me catch the cat and hold him while she brushes him, and I say, "Maybe it's time Boise gets a haircut, too."
She doesn't answer.
She gets rid of the day's clothes and goes to bed, and I need to sleep, too.
During the day, I take her to the hospital to get a second opinion on her injury. The first doctor asked her to stay in the infirmary for a week. While we're waiting, a nurse pushes a cart into my toe and doesn't apologize.
"Ouch," I say.
"That's ouch?" Cathreen asks.
"I don't mean it's as bad as yours."
She squeezes my hand between the embedded bones of my thumb and forefinger. "Even that's ouch?" she says.
5.
I met Cathreen over three years ago, when I first came to Korea to teach English. I was born in this country but adopted. So I'm Korean only not. Between us, we're a mixed bag. Willfulness is our biggest similarity, money our biggest difference. We were fighting about money the day of the door-slamming. Cathreen has always told me to be more careful with doors--which, a fact I like, are called "moon" in Korean.
6.
When I finish work, I meet my beleagured love at 2001 Outlet, a Korean shopping site. She's had a haircut and keeps asking if I like it. Her hair has always been long and beautiful; now it's short and makes her look a bit like a doll and a bit like a thirteen-year-old. Her hair surrounds her face in a bell-shape and her new bangs even out above her eyes.
"Do I look cute?" she asks.
"Okay," I say. "I like it."
We watch a Chinese movie about two music students who fall in love, the girl about to die, called Secret. We aren't able to finish it because she feel sick to her stomach--the new medicine is too strong, and she says she is depressed about her hair.
7.
If I rethink the idea of posting this essay online, I suppose I am a little worried. This whole project will test me on the asshole-o-meter, as I've already done so much to hurt her I can't say anything now that could be taken the wrong way. I hope I take time to measure my words.
8.
Now Cathreen makes me catch the cat and hold him while she brushes him, and I say, "Maybe it's time Boise gets a haircut, too."
She doesn't answer.
She gets rid of the day's clothes and goes to bed, and I need to sleep, too.
The First Post
1.
I've just pitched the idea to Cathreen and she does not look happy about it.
"You think I'm funny character?" she says.
"I think we both are. Look at all the ridiculous things that have been happening to us," I say. I tell her I'll post the essay online.
"Give me money," she says. She calls her sister to complain.
2.
This started when I slammed her hand in the door--two days ago. Today her hair caught fire in the bathtub. I had filled the tub for her and lit candles to relax her from the bad mood she had woken up in. The pain from the injury, she says, is shocking, though she doesn't mean this like surprising, she means it like electricity. The doctor says she has to wear a soft cast and keep her arm in a sling for two weeks; her hand has swollen up and, last we saw it, was badly bruised. When I tell people what I have done, I know they are thinking I beat her. Other people's ideas frighten me.
3.
Now she comes into the room and asks, "Are you going to use my name? You going to write down everything I say? You didn't get a permission from me." She says her family will read it, though they will have to struggle through translating it into Korean, and my family will read it. I tell her art has to be honest. "Let me read first before you put it," she says. I read it to her. "Not funny," she says, "your story."
I've just pitched the idea to Cathreen and she does not look happy about it.
"You think I'm funny character?" she says.
"I think we both are. Look at all the ridiculous things that have been happening to us," I say. I tell her I'll post the essay online.
"Give me money," she says. She calls her sister to complain.
2.
This started when I slammed her hand in the door--two days ago. Today her hair caught fire in the bathtub. I had filled the tub for her and lit candles to relax her from the bad mood she had woken up in. The pain from the injury, she says, is shocking, though she doesn't mean this like surprising, she means it like electricity. The doctor says she has to wear a soft cast and keep her arm in a sling for two weeks; her hand has swollen up and, last we saw it, was badly bruised. When I tell people what I have done, I know they are thinking I beat her. Other people's ideas frighten me.
3.
Now she comes into the room and asks, "Are you going to use my name? You going to write down everything I say? You didn't get a permission from me." She says her family will read it, though they will have to struggle through translating it into Korean, and my family will read it. I tell her art has to be honest. "Let me read first before you put it," she says. I read it to her. "Not funny," she says, "your story."
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